Just ask Loulou about spicing up your life.

Posted on 23 October, 2019

She is the zanier (and more sweary) side of Canberra floral royalty Moxom and Whitney, but did you know that Loulou Moxom gives good advice?

This week we tackle the tricky concept of boring bedroom antics and how to spice them up. And keeping with the romance theme, is 37 is too old to be searching for romance?

Q: I’m wondering how I ask my husband to explore things in the bedroom with me?

Don’t get me wrong, it’s great! But it’s just the same—every time.

I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I’m getting very bored of the same routine!

Talk to him, Doll. I have been there. It’s awkward AF but it was that or an unhappy downstairs. Am I Right?!

You married this lucky fella remember? You chose him to rub ugly bits with for life. Go and talk to your Captain Studley. If you still feel awkward, tell him. There is nothing wrong with being vulnerable. Just be honest and sincere and deliver your words with love.

Communicate. That’s all you have to do.

Before you do dive headfirst into that conversation though, just ask yourself one thing: can you honestly say, hand on heart, that you are ALSO bringing your entire A-Game every time you guys are getting it on? Because this just might be a case of him also being tired of the vegetable curry and boiled white rice option.

So here are my Top Tips to take you from mild Butter Chicken to Pork Vindaloo.

Sometimes you forget to season correctly.

Sometimes you’re okay with just salt and pepper.

Sometimes you’d rather tour all the spice markets in New Delhi.

Whatever your tastes, always talk to your fellow cheffo about new recipes you’d like to try on curry night (and safety words…).

Stay away from chickpeas and eggplants on curry night—you’re aiming for a hot and spicy feast, not a Dutch oven.

Q: I’m 37, single and looking for Mr Right. I want to get married and have kids—that’s where most of my friends are at.

Tell me truthfully, have I missed the boat?

Sweet thing, anytime in your thirties or forties is the perfect age to be THINKING about marriage, babies and life shit.

Hopefully, you’ve lived a little, seen some of our beautiful planet, educated yourself enough to land a job you enjoy, saved some money, no longer see Coca Cola as an acceptable breakfast (yes, even if it is Coke No Sugar).

You’ve had the luxury of time to figure out your likes and dislikes, not only about yourself but also your future partner. You have wisdom and you’ve learned how to adult.

With age comes confidence and unless every Cleo Bachelor of the Year was lying—CONFIDENCE IS SEXY!

Plus—and this is like bonus points, you get your pick of divorced men who have experienced a marriage that didn’t work and are also probably more aware of who they are and who they want to partner with. Winning!

You’ve got this is the bag girl. You know who you are. You know what you want. Go and make it happen, Legend x.

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Feature image: Tim Bean Photography for HerCanberra Magazine